I think we both know that conflict is common in our intimate relationships, even though we can forget.
On the home page I have these stats to just be aware of the average: “Conflict may happen more often than we think. As much as every 3.6 minutes in conversations between 4-year olds and their moms, 7 disagreements per day for teenagers, 2.3 conflicts per week for dating couples, and 7 ‘differences of opinion’ every 2 weeks remembered by spouses with 1-2 larger disagreements per month on average.”
With that said, when we get into a disagreement we want to win and we want some kind of benefit after. Personally, the term “fight fair” seems too friendly or unrealistic when there are 2 opposing opinions and wants and needs, but it essentially means where both parties win.
Well, how do you know you’ve had good a fight? Here are some outcomes of a good fair fight:
- Feelings of fear, being hurt or vengefulness have lessened
- There has been mutual good influence
- You feel better about yourself AND your relationship
- and more I share in today’s video episode
You can easily find a ton of strategies online about fighting fair, so I only share 2 essential and fundamental components that you need to implement any strategy you want to use.
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This episode puts things in perspective and sets you on a new track for productive conflict-resolution. I personally used this to train myself to prepare for a good match!
I’d love to hear your strategies on fighting fair. What has worked and what hasn’t?
So glad I opened your email your voice is so kind and such words of wisdom you spoke. I will listen again to reinforce the thoughts.
Hi Linda, Thanks for your warm support! I’m so happy to hear from you!