What improves mood, memory & concentration?
How to be heard
Don’t be a loser: Fight Fair
The Question You Want Answered
There’s a special question that you need to ask your partner. And no, it’s not popping THE question. It’s something much more powerful and meaningful than that.
When a psychologist approached a publisher for his new book, the publisher was very skeptical and wanted to see if this psychologist was the real deal, so he asked the psychologist, “what is 1 thing I can do to improve my marriage in 30 seconds?” The psychologist responded, to what he thought, was the most important thing. The publisher went to his wife and once the he asked the special question, she responded, “I thought you’d never ask.” (You can watch the clip here)
In today’s video I give you the question and the whole reason why it works. Interestingly enough, it has to do with how the famous sculptor, Michelangelo, approached his art.
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As an artist myself, I found this to be a lovely revelation. Seeing our partner, the same way Michelangelo perceived marble.
After you watch it I encourage you and your partner to be each other’s Michelangelo. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Do you feel nagged? Or frustrated the person isn’t responsive?
Is feminism bias to only women?
Dear Friends,
Emma Watson is taking He For She to the next level, IMPACT 10x10X10.
As a mother, I raise my son to be androgynous, to have a set of skills that are both instrumental and expressive, both masculine and feminine traits. Because the traditional gender roles do both men and women a disservice, depriving them both of affection and accomplishments, warmth and achievements, friendliness and assertiveness.
According to research, girls are accepted as tomboys more than boys as feminine. But the good news is that each new generation is more egalitarian. Emma is a wonderful model for the new generation.
What I find key, is that not one gender is more important than the other, we are both human. This isn’t a hate-men campaign, on the contrary, a campaign of unity.
My husband, being a compassionate man, sees himself as a feminist, and also as a vessel to encourage other men to become aware of their feelings, and help them feel comfortable in providing warmth, tenderness, affection and support to their partners.
A 2006 survey found that marriages with both spouses in traditional gender roles are generally less happy with their marriages than androgynous couples, even still as time goes by.
When we enter a romantic relationship, we all want warm and affectionate partners, but a person with high instrumental skills and low expressive skills, makes it difficult to have an intimate relationship.
And being low in instrumentality is like being low in assertiveness and personal strength.
This campaign, is not only for women, and that is what I love about it, it’s also for men. Where both genders benefit.
As Elizabeth Gilbert said beautifully, “It seems rude NOT to call yourself a feminist, given what feminism delivered to us.”
Cheers to He For She!
How to Play Hard to Get—The Authentic Way
I’m not talking about the popular “Play Hard to Get” rule, because it doesn’t work and relationship science has known it for over 40 years.
The popular version doesn’t lead to a committed relationship with authencticity, intimacy, friendship and companionship, but the opposite.
It leads to loneliness.
Why?
I share 2 reasons why that is, and in those reasons are solutions to finding intimacy.
Even if you are single, this applies to you too! Because we all need intimacy and a solid friendship for our health and overall well-being.