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How to Cope with Betrayal

Betrayal is definitely something we all deal with, or have dealt with, in varying degrees.

Since I’m not one sided, I included advice for both sides of the coin in today’s video. 

How to cope with betrayal for the person feeling betrayed, and the person that acted in a form that loses trust (to some degree).

I share:

  • all the ways we can betray (among those an emotional affair, gossiping, exposing secrets, etc)
  • what each person feels, thinks and hopes will happen after the betrayal
  • the 3 specific ways to successfully cope with betrayal and survive infidelity (together or apart) and where you can learn more
  • a little tip for those that are betraying their partner and their partner doesn’t know yet, how to approach them in a way that is more likely to get a pardon
  • finally, a pep talk to those that have been betrayed, especially recently (if this is you, you NEED to hear this!)

 

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Leave me comment below on your personal experience with betrayal. Do you relate with any of the scenarios I shared? Would you forgive your partner if you found them unfaithful?

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What if I’m not ready to forgive?

It took me a while to find compassion and forgiveness in my heart. It was difficult because I jumped from one extreme, being too forgiving, to another extreme, being too self-righteous.

I had to learn about forgiveness and I thought that so many of us have a trouble knowing what IS and ISN’T forgiveness, that I made a short video about it to answer many of the common questions we face when it comes to forgiveness:

  • What if I’m not ready to forgive?
  • Does this mean reconciliation?
  • If I forgive, won’t the person just do it again? How can I make sure that doesn’t happen?
  • What if I just want them to know the pain I feel/felt?
  • How much time do I have to really forgive?

 

On the other hand:

  • I want to be forgiven, how can I show that I am sincerely sorry?

 

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Let this video jump start you in the right direction. If you love the video, share it with your friends. You would be helping others navigate something so difficult, yet so pervasive.

 

If you want to learn more about the step-by-step process of Forgiveness, FINEST-Self is open for enrollment!