I’ve had moments where I’ve said the wrong thing or worse, and wish I could go back and rectify my mistake. Either because I hurt someone I care about, or I allowed someone to take advantage of me.
In my moment of deep shame, I fantasize of a time machine to repeat the scene (as if I hadn’t already in my mind) and change it.
Although I briefly mention in today’s video our attachment styles and personality being predictors of how we respond to life circumstances, that is definitely something to keep in mind. Our experiences are huge contributors to our responses, to the we respond when facing regret.
For me, it has always been important to not let my mom down. When I did, I had a knot in my stomach. That doesn’t necessarily mean my brother would, or any other girl my age at that moment in my shoes, would either.
I love that we are alike yet different. We all will feel regret, but not for the same reasons.
The beauty about perfecting the psychology of the human mind, is that we can expand our understanding by studying what we share as humans and respect what we don’t.
Today I talk about the pervasive feeling of regret.
It can be an intense feeling, depending on the severity of the regrettable incident. Nonetheless, we all share this feeling.
With it comes feelings of shame, embarrassment, sadness, or anger.
It can take such a strong hold on us, so how do we face it?
How do we get control back?
Tweet it! Use escape or distraction to regroup, not as a chronic solution.
I found Helen Mirren to be brave admitting her regret on live television and reaching out for the man she got kicked off the subway.
You can see her full story below.
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