[vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”4563″ img_size=”large”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”This One Thing Will Hurt Your Relationship More Than Cheating Ever Could, Because Negativity Is The Cold Hand Of Death” google_fonts=”font_family:Montserrat%3Aregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” link=”url:http%3A%2F%2Fwww.bustle.com%2Farticles%2F103383-this-one-thing-will-hurt-your-relationship-more-than-cheating-ever-could-because-negativity-is-the|title:Read%20More|target:%20_blank”][vc_column_text]I gave an interview on what is worse than cheating and if you look at the research, this is hands down, the worse thing that could happen to your relationship. It’s common—that is why the divorce rate is still high.
Like I said in the article, when a couple is engaged in constant negative interaction, and persistent negative thoughts about our partner as selfish, or only out for themselves, unsupportive, or even dismissive of our own needs. The fundamental issue isn’t about communication or problem-solving skills, but about trust for each other.
This betrayal can take many different forms: Putting our career (or other relationships) ahead of our romantic relationship, sharing intimate troubles with others that our partner would find uncomfortable if they knew, not bringing things up or lying in order to ‘keep the peace,’ negatively comparing our partner to better choices (physically, intellectually, emotionally, you name it), withdrawing affection and intimacy, disrespecting and belittling our partner, or breaking a promise our partner asked of us to trust us.[/vc_column_text][button new_tab=”yes” special_style=”yes” border_radius=”2″ color=”second-dark” title=”Read More” link=”http://www.bustle.com/articles/103383-this-one-thing-will-hurt-your-relationship-more-than-cheating-ever-could-because-negativity-is-the”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”4290″ img_size=”large” style=”vc_box_outline”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”Featured as the Quintessential Couple of HMRE with the Administration of Children & Families” google_fonts=”font_family:Montserrat%3Aregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” link=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fhmrf.acf.hhs.gov%2Farticles%2Fhealthy-relationships-california%2F%23.VjSxadZV_8E||target:%20_blank”][vc_column_text]We were recognized by the federal department that funds Healthy Marriage & Relationship Education (HMRE) nationwide as the quintessential story of HMRE.
Although the article shares only a sliver of all we worked through, it sheds light on the journey we’ve made.
As young newly weds and new parents, we had no idea what we were doing and our mistakes were growing insurmountably. These classes and marital therapy gave us the resources we needed. With much appreciation and after years of hard work and breaking bad habits, we went back to school to learn more about psychology, and dived into our training as teachers while in school.[/vc_column_text][button new_tab=”yes” special_style=”yes” border_radius=”2″ color=”second-dark” title=”Read More” link=”https://hmrf.acf.hhs.gov/articles/healthy-relationships-california/#.VjSxadZV_8E”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”4566″ img_size=”large” style=”vc_box_outline”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”6 Beliefs that Doom Relationships” google_fonts=”font_family:Montserrat%3Aregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” link=”url:http%3A%2F%2Fmissiondatenight.com%2Ftag%2Flucinda-loveland%2F||target:%20_blank”][vc_column_text]A popular interview through a fun podcast with Drs. Rob & Janelle Alex, where I shared the 6 Beliefs that Doom Relationships by a collection of research.
So what are they?
- Disagreements are destructive…and if you have one with your sweetie, it means he/she doesn’t love you anymore.
- Mind reading is essential in your partnership.
- Partners cannot change…
[/vc_column_text][button new_tab=”yes” special_style=”yes” border_radius=”2″ color=”second-dark” title=”Read More” link=”http://missiondatenight.com/tag/lucinda-loveland/”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][video_embed url=”https://youtu.be/YPXMEVjPub4″ border=”yes”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][video_embed url=”https://vimeo.com/77276449″ border=”yes”][/vc_column][vc_column][spacer height=”50″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”4567″ img_size=”large” style=”vc_box_outline”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”Make Your Own Luck” google_fonts=”font_family:Montserrat%3Aregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]I shared a simple and effective tip for young teens about how to make their own luck in this popular teen magazine, for the 2015 Feb/March issue.
[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”4568″ img_size=”large” style=”vc_box_outline”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”Latin Post features an article of a website launch for Spanish-speakers in relationships” google_fonts=”font_family:Montserrat%3Aregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” link=”url:http%3A%2F%2Fwww.latinpost.com%2Farticles%2F9296%2F20140321%2Fhealthy-relationships-california-launch-mejoratusrelaciones-com-spanish-speakers.htm||target:%20_blank”][vc_column_text]As co-producer of the site, MejoraTusRelaciones.com, we’ve been able to reach 50% more people that are Spanish-speakers in California looking to improve their relationships from those that understand them and their culture, not just a literal translation of the English-language for an English-speaking audience.
[/vc_column_text][button new_tab=”yes” special_style=”yes” border_radius=”2″ color=”second-dark” title=”Read More” link=”http://www.latinpost.com/articles/9296/20140321/healthy-relationships-california-launch-mejoratusrelaciones-com-spanish-speakers.htm”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”126″ img_size=”large” style=”vc_box_outline”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”2012 OC Press Club Award Winner for Best Family/Lifestyle Blog” google_fonts=”font_family:Montserrat%3Aregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” link=”url:http%3A%2F%2Fwww.relationshipsca.org%2Fblog%2F2012%2F11%2Fhrc-staffer-receives-orange-county-press-club-award-best-family-and-lifestyle-blog%2F||target:%20_blank”][vc_column_text]In honor of receiving such an award, I shared in this article the personal struggle and triumph the prior 5 years had given me, to inspire my writing and passion.
“Our issues seemed insurmountable and I felt hopeless,” says Lucinda to the participants of her World Class Relationships™ class, “I hadn’t realized the bad habits I had and how I was contributing to my own despair…We believe that a healthy marriage is fundamental to the well-being of children…”[/vc_column_text][button new_tab=”yes” special_style=”yes” border_radius=”2″ color=”second-dark” title=”Read More” link=”http://www.relationshipsca.org/blog/2012/11/hrc-staffer-receives-orange-county-press-club-award-best-family-and-lifestyle-blog/”][/vc_column][/vc_row]